A question

[rhondacrockett]

Is it considered unremarkable and acceptable behaviour to ask for a stranger's contact details (namely, a phone number) immediately upon engaging with them online? And is it considered unremarkable and acceptable behaviour to give it upon such a request? And is it therefore considered bizarre, rude, anti-social or verging on the hysterical to refuse?

I am completely baffled by this. Common sense tells me that asking for a stranger's number is presumptous and riven with the potential to go wrong, but when I tell them no, they act like I'm being unreasonable or that I just need to be persuaded.

Comments

[evildeadpony.livejournal.com]

Ew no, that's gross unacceptable behavior on the interweb AND in person.

[rhondacrockett]

Thank you! I was beginning to think I was going crazy or something.

[musewrangler.livejournal.com]

That sounds really forward. It wouldn't shock me or anything, but I'd have no problem turning down such a request.

[rhondacrockett]

It's not so much shock as bafflement - particularly when they react as if I'm just being difficult. Dude, no, you are random words on a screen, it is common sense to not give you my number! >.>

[violetsugar]

Not something I'd be okay with either. Rather odd to want someone's phone number immediately after engaging with them. That seems more like a request after two people have been talking for a while / gotten to know each other a little first.

[rhondacrockett]

My thoughts exactly!